Maybe you still sit together, but it feels different. Maybe someone has made new friends. You can miss how things were without knowing what you want to happen next.
Start with what happened
“We haven’t had lunch together this week” is something you can describe. “They’ll never want me around again” is a worry about what might happen. It can help to write those separately.
Say one honest thing
If you feel safe talking to them, try a straightforward opening: “I’ve missed hanging out. Want to do something this week?”
If a joke hurt, you can say: “I didn’t like that joke about me. Please don’t do it again.” You don’t need a perfect speech to ask for respect.
Make space for other people too
You don’t have to find a whole new group overnight. Start a conversation with one person, join something you’re interested in or spend time with someone who makes you feel welcome.
Get support with hurtful behaviour
Repeated threats, humiliation, rumours or deliberate exclusion deserve attention. Tell a trusted adult, teacher or school counsellor. If the first person doesn’t help, try another.
Read Kids Helpline’s guide to social bullying ↗
One thing to write tonight
“What I miss is…” and “What I need now is…” Your answers don’t have to match. You don’t have to make a final decision on this page.